Here is some good advice from Neil Gaiman via the Parmigiana Whisperer. Writers hung up on rules, take note!
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” – Neil Gaiman
Happy 2021 everybody! Here’s to some fantastic mistakes!

Well, this is good news! I make a LOT of mistakes!! I don’t now how fantastic my 2021 mistakes will be, but they’ll be mistakes all right.
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Creative ones, I hope!
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I’ll say yes because in the end the mistakes move me forward!
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With me it’s a sort of two-step: make mistake, feel discouraged, disengage and think, try it again. Etc.
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For me, the two-step you describe is mistakes I make at work.
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I think this wisdom is true in many areas of life. Sometimes we learn the most when we make mistakes. I remember incidents when I fell on my face as a young adult, and those life lessons were quite helpful in the long run.
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Mistakes are memorable, and the ones we manage to recover from are especially valuable.
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Great advice. I wholly support this idea, which reflects the advice I give to would-be poets. Go ahead and write some bad poetry! Eventually you will get some really great stuff out of all that fluff and nonsense.
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That’s true of prose writing too, except the proportion of fluff that needs to be sifted through is higher.
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I don’t think there’s a writer alive who isn’t scared of failure and yet, here we are, Indies shouting our words into the void in the hope an echo comes back. Mistakes galore and failures by the dozen, but we’re still here. I take that as a very good sign.
Stay well. -hugs-
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And it’s great that we can connect with one another while we’re making our mistakes and celebrating our successes.
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Amen! When I started writing fiction there was no one, absolutely no one I could talk to about this crazy thing I was doing. Finding people who spoke my language when it came to books and the whole writing process was life changing. Making friends with them gave me a community in the truest sense of the word. 🙂
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I have to make many mistakes in order to learn anything, so I already follow this rule.
It has always worked very well for me…
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There are certainly enough opportunities to mess up in writing, publishing, and blogging. But here we all are…
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And loving every minute!
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I’m sitting here thinking about things I’m afraid to try – writing a novel comes to mind straight away. I’m primarily a writer of poetry and short stories and the thought of tackling a novel terrifies me!
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If it really wants to be written, it will find a way to make you do it. If a scene comes to you, write it down. And further scenes after that. Once there are enough, you can figure out how to string them together.
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That’s a good idea, Audrey. Thank you!
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You’re welcome!
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I used to tell the youth swimmers I coached that they had permission to “fail spectacularly” because it was better to see them try really hard and screw up (say, try to lead the lane in workout, make the mistake of starting out way too fast, and fall to the back of the line) than to play it safe and not make improvements. I think the mindset works with writing, too, as Gaiman so eloquently puts it.
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Having permission to fail is crucial. I think it’s not so much the mistakes, but anticipating others’ reactions to them that paralyze us.
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So am I making progress or is it a mistake to think I’m making progress? O the fun I can make with this circular logic. (So at least I can make something out of this.)
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I hope you do get something worthwhile out of this, Pat!
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Will reblog this tomorrow morning. I like the positive thought process this lays out.
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Thank you!
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Lovely thoughts, a great way to look at it!
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Thank you, Erica!
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thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed this post!! ❤
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Excellent attitude! It’s sort of like cooking. Unless you’re an experienced chef, the first time you make something, you probably made a mistake or two. But that doesn’t mean the dish didn’t taste good! And you’ll make it better the second time around.
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Exactly!
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Excellent advice!
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Thanks, Tiffany!
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Splendid advice!
It is said (where the origin is I know not) that the person who never made a mistake never made anything.
As I see it when making a mistake in writing the writer opens up new opportunities to explore other pathways.
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That’s true, Roger. It’s kind of like leaving the beaten path and striking out into the forest. You might get lost or stuck in a swamp, but you may find something wonderful as well. And others may follow you.
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Wise words Audrey, wise words.
I squelched through the swamp and found the most fascinating trails.
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You did, indeed!
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Thanks!
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I love this advice. That’s partly what I did in 2020, but now I’m feeling pretty good about it 🙂
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I’m glad to hear that Debra. Thanks for your comment!
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